‘Tis the season of giving and festivities! People are knocking off work, malls are getting busier, George the office jerk drank too much mulled wine at the Christmas party and those elves on the shelves are popping up all over the house!
It can truly be a wonderful time of year for people. However, it can also be a very triggering time for others..
Maybe your daughter wants to give all of her teachers a gift, maybe your partner wants the new PS5, maybe you’ve been forced to participate in a multitude of Secret Santa’s or maybe you’re hosting Christmas at your place and every person in your family is attending, even your irritating Uncle Bob who makes snarky comments about your business under his breath.
Whatever it is, you’re one holly-jolly-Christmas away from switching your morning coffees to morning whisky’s.
So what’s a pre-triggered babe to do when money isn’t as free flowing at this time of year as she’d hoped?
You know my recommendation is ALWAYS going to be money mindset work baby! Like I’ve said previously, this work has saved me in so many ways, from limitation, from lack, from scarcity, from stuckness and from disempowerment, and because of that I don’t think there’s a better way to work through the resistance active in your vibration right now.
So here’s 5 tips on how to not get financially triggered this Christmas.
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1. Accept that you’re triggered
Okay, I know this is the LAST thing you want to hear, but guess what? It’s okay to be triggered. It’s okay to be worried about money. It’s okay to be feeling guilty spending money when you still have debt. It’s okay to be dreading the holidays, fearing Christmas morning or feeling overwhelm at all the upcoming events that inevitably mean money disappearing from your bank account. It’s okay to feel sorry for yourself or be angry or frustrated or embarrassed. It’s all 100% okay. It doesn’t have to mean anything about you or your worth or what you’ll be capable of earning and manifesting in the future. It doesn’t have to mean anything except that you’re just freakin’ triggered!
Think about the last time you came to a place of acceptance of something, what happened? You more than likely weren’t bothered by it anymore which inturn drops your heavily charged vibe about it. Like stacked dirty dishes in the kitchen sink. How much has that bothered you over the years? And how many times did you decide, “You know what, I don’t care anymore. They can stack FOREVER if they want.” And then after you released your trigger about it low and behold someone winds up washing them and putting them away.
Accepting where you are and how you feel is what will help you drop resistance.
2. Reframe the negative thoughts
One of my favourite exercises to do that I teach in Money Mindset School is reframing your negative thoughts with new empowering ones. Get a piece of paper or open up a Spreadsheet and create two columns. One titled, ‘Negative Thoughts’ and the other titled ‘New Empowering Thoughts’. Then brain dump every negative thought you’ve come up with so far leading up to Christmas in the first column. And in the second column, reframe each of those thoughts into more empowering believable thoughts.
Negative Thoughts Example:
- “I don’t know how I’m going to afford all of this.”
- “Everyone will think I’m cheap and/or poor.”
- “I don’t want this family member over for Christmas.”
- “I feel guilty that I can’t buy this gift for my child or partner.”
- “I’m a bad parent or partner.”
- “I feel cheap for only buying discounted items for gifts.”
- “I can’t find anything I can afford.”
- “I don’t feel abundant or supported at all.”
Empowering Thoughts Example:
- “I believe abundance can come to me despite how I’m feeling right now.”
- “Lies! I’m working on my money mindset daily and it’s getting easier.”
- “I choose to be unbothered about what this family member says or does.”
- “I’m doing the best I can right now and I’ll still be loved if I don’t buy it.”
- “My worth as a parent or partner is not in the things I buy.”
- “I spend with love and intention, the discount is irrelevant.”
- “I find amazing gifts at amazing prices.”
- “I’m so freakin’ supported by life. No matter what I always find a way, a miracle always happens, it always falls into place, everything works out in my favor. It’s getting easier and easier.”
When you find yourself thinking negative triggering thoughts about Christmas, refer back to your list and remind yourself of your new empowering thoughts.
3. Forgive yourself and others
Now that you’ve uncovered a lot of what is triggering you, it’s time to run through some forgiveness work so we can start to release a lot of this icky stuff weighing you down. Write down all the things you need to forgive that you uncovered from the negative thoughts exercise, as well as anything that comes up from the suggestions below and then read through each line and say, “I forgive you, I love you, I’m sorry, thank you.”
FORGIVE YOURSELF FOR:
- Your financial decisions this year
- The debt you may still have
- Overspending
- Buying a gift you don’t think is good enough
- Being annoyed about getting a gift you do or don’t want
- Not being able to buy the things you want for the people you love
- Not wanting to buy gifts because you’re saving money or because you just don’t want to
- Spending money – period
FORGIVE OTHERS FOR:
- Putting a financial strain on you this year (i.e job loss, income decrease etc..)
- Asking for things you can’t afford right now
- Expecting you to front the full cost of hosting them (i.e food, power, gifts, cooking, time, energy etc..)
- Feeling ungrateful about what you’ve bought them
- Being a jerk towards you about your business
- Underspending/overspending on you or others
- Making you feel like you have to buy something for them
- Their lack of understanding/sensitivity/consideration etc..
4. Set healthy boundaries with your spending
I know it can seem like one of the ways to manifesting financial abundance is through continuous upgrading and spending at higher and higher quantities to push yourself past your comfort zone, but if all that is doing is putting you in an endless feast of famine cycle or it isn’t an actual desire or it’s way out of alignment for you right now, then that’s clearly not healthy.
Setting healthy boundaries with your spending is important for a strong and solid money mindset that withstands time, and that starts with being intentional about how you’re spending your money.
Spending with love and feeling abundant when you do is the key. Whether it’s for a totally discounted item, something you always buy every year or “a bit on the expensive side” splurge, you can feel flowy and joyful and abundant at all levels of spending. And because you do, it keeps you an open channel for money, love, joy and abundance to flow back to you.
Before you make any purchase, no matter how big or small it is, get yourself into a state of gratitude, joy and abundance. This should be easy if you’re shopping with intention and you’ve set your intentions of how you want this season to work for you. And when you are, use these mantras to give you an extra power boost.
MANTRAS TO USE WHEN SHOPPING:
- For every dollar I spend, 10x the amount of abundance flows back to me!
- I spend money with love and I receive even more with love.
- It’s safe to spend money.
- As money goes out, sales come in.
- Unexpected miracles and blessings are happening for me financially.
- Money is always flowing to me.
- As I spend money, more flows to me in expected and unexpected ways.
- I’m manifesting more money into my reality as I shop.
5. Hold the vision of a joyful Christmas
You know I love me some visualization and I’ve manifested so many amazing things from visualization alone so of course I’m going to suggest this is what you do before you get to the big festive day.
Take some time to do this exercise and really feel into it.
Imagine the days leading up to Christmas are full of ease and flow. Shopping is a breeze, it’s like you’re effortlessly lead to the right gift at the right time for the right person, and you get them at amazing prices. So amazing you’re not sure how it was still available but recognize that this is your reality being made manifest by your thoughts that this is an abundant universe and everything works out in your favor.
Imagine that when you check your bank account you find out you’ve spent far less than you thought you would and you’ve actually come in under your spending limit so you have more money leftover to spend or save or do with what you please. And on top of that, you’ve noticed an influx of sales lately. If you were to actually tally both up you would find you actually made more money during this time.
Imagine that Christmas morning is pure bliss with your children, partner, family or yourself. Everyone absolutely loves what they got, you feel all the love vibes, have an amazing breakfast together and it feels like a magical day already.
Imagine you driving to your fam or having them arrive with smiles on their faces full of love and cheer. They’ve shown up with food, drink and gifts, everyone chips in with helping, you have a ton of laughs and make wonderful memories, and you feel so relaxed and able to enjoy your family for the rest of the day.
Imagine yourself sitting back after an amazing day feeling so full of love and gratitude for how easy this all was and you know that from now on it’s always going to be.
Holding the vision of this season going so breezy for you and as you fill it with more joyful and abundant emotion, stacked with your new empowering thoughts and grounded with healthy boundaries, this is going to help keep you in a relaxed state that remains a match to the outcome of your relaxed and abundant Christmas happening.
I hope you have a wonderful Christmas and a fantastic New Year!
Now it’s your turn: Which tip did you like the most and what will you put into action leading up to Christmas?
